Your Home is the most important place because it will make the deepest impact on you and your family. Yet, again and again, we have a hard time to love our Home and feel content about it. Though we know that
“Home is where the heart is.”
Loving Your Home Can Be a Challenge
Unless you have the perfect Home, many things can get in the way of loving your Home. Maybe it’s too small or too big (at least cleaning-wise), unfinished or stale, maybe there is not enough storage space or it’s just simply outdated. Maybe the reason you are not happy with your Home is having small annoyances like dripping faucets, loose knobs, broken cabinets or things alike – probably several of them at the same time.
All the things you see as a problem or a flaw can lead to negative feelings. When you feel like you’re stuck with limited options, you get frustrated. If you let your house get out of control, you feel irritated and easily snap at your family. Not surprisingly you’ll also find it very difficult to sit down and relax. When you are frustrated or irritated or not relaxed and realize that your Home is to blame for these feelings, you won’t be able to love your Home as you should. The major problem with this is that it’s going to reflect on other areas of your life, simply because it’s hard not to allow discontentment to show itself in your general attitude. – You see, it’s like the domino-effect and it all starts with your Home!
Never Give Up on Loving Your Home!
Your Home is your haven. If you don’t love and nurture it, who will? Don’t give in to hopelessness. You CAN improve your circumstances and your Home little by little. Getting discouraged and “giving up” on your Home will only make things worse, including feeling yourself down.
The thing is that your home doesn’t have to be perfect, you just have to have something to work with. Something to improve. The majority of people do not have a perfect Home but many of them search for ways to improve the place they live in. You can find your way too.
What Makes a House a Home?
“A house is made of bricks and beams. A Home is made of hopes and dreams.”
It takes more than just a house well designed and decorated to have a Home. It is the people in it who make a house a home.
There are different attributes that determine home and how you feel about it.
Place of Nurturing
It is the place where you nurture yourself and your family. Having homemade meals or just knowing the fridge is full of food makes a place feel like home.
Place of Connecting
Activities you do in your home to connect with the people most important to you also determines how you feel about your place.
The Settings of Your Story
Home decor has the power to transform your attitude to your home. If you want your Home to work for you then take the time to find your style. Figuring that out and sticking to it will help you create a home that is personal and lovable to you.
Place of Inspiration
Your home should be a reflection of you and a place that inspires you. A place to recharge your heart and mind. A place where your family loves to come home to, where everyone feels safe and cozy.
If you are not quite there yet, don’t worry! None of us is. What can make you different from others is deciding to make the necessary changes.
Most of those changes are about you, not about the place you call your home.
Loving Your Home Is All About Attitude
Learning to love your home isn’t about making big changes; it’s about appreciating the little things.
If you want to love your Home (again), then you need to get intentional.
Start by being clear on what you want from your Home. Put into words the things that make a house YOUR home. The feelings you want to have about your Home. Check off all the ones you already have. It’s a safe bet to say that you probably have at least half of the list ticked off already. Probably, the most important ones: the nonmaterialistic things, feelings you want to have.
The next step is to practice gratitude for all the things you already have. It works reverse: start being grateful for the Home you have and you will have the Home that you want and dream of.
When you practice gratitude, you find contentment with where you are now. Just because you aren’t living in your dream home yet, it doesn’t mean that you can’t be happy with where you are at. Learn to be content and make the best of what you have in every situation.
It starts with accepting the things you can’t change. Doing so you free yourself to enjoy what’s good and to make progress on improving what can be changed. If you focus on what you love about your Home and on what you CAN change, you’ll find a way to accept the things you can’t change.
Forget perfection! Sometimes looking at photos of beautiful houses can make you feel anxious about the shortcomings in your own Home. Do you feel like your house could never live up to your dream standard? That’s fine, don’t worry! You may still love your Home as you accept the unchangeable and make the small changes you can to reach your dream step by step. Maybe somewhere along the way you will even reevaluate your dream standard as you gain experience and research your ideas and plans.
Accepting imperfection can help you avoid a huge trap that is easy to fall in: comparing your Home to others’. There will always be someone with a “better/bigger/nicer/newer” house, that’s just reality, so don’t waste your time comparing. That is a road with a dead end. Rather you should be inspired by other homes’ designs and decor. See the possibilities and the creativity in others’ beautiful homes and decor and let that inspire you to make changes in your own Home!
Do not live up to anyone else’s expectations. Your house is YOUR Home. It serves you and your family and not others. Don’t worry about what others might think or say. You can’t totally avoid judgmental and opinionated people but you can try. If you don’t succeed in it you can decide to ignore them and chose to be grateful for what you have. Adapt this:
“If you came to see me, welcome! If you came to see my house, make an appointment!”
If you’re unhappy in your Home, get your hands busy with a small project around the house. Don’t be afraid to try new things. Make little changes, with your own hands. You need them because the more time and effort you put into your home, the more you will love it. Any room – even if it’s tiny and has no character at all – can be turned into something beautiful if you’re willing to get creative and put in the work. It may be cleaning out a closet to make room for a hobby, hanging a new light fixture, painting a wall a new color or do a simple planked wall in your dining room — whatever, they can make you feel your Home more yours.
Be free to use what you have available on your hands. Don’t wait to organize your drawers until you have the “perfect” drawer dividers. … Do the best you can with what you have available and expand the way you think about the possibilities. Think creatively. Remember, the solution to your problem doesn’t have to be perfect. It just has to work. (That’s the best approach when living in an extemporal home, but it may be different when building a permanent home. However, all the things you learn by honing your creativity in a temporary home will come handy when you start all over again in your forever one.)
It’s a Work in Progress
Learning to love your home – even if all you can do is changing your attitude about it – will be a work in progress. No matter what your circumstances are, you can learn to love your space. It takes time. But you just have to start somewhere, anywhere! Build memories one by one, take care of what you already have, add a little more character and personality daily, and you’ll fall in love with your Home more and more every day.